According to the results of the National Family Health Survey (NFHS), women from Chennai along with Delhi stood second in the list of divorcees across the country in the age group of 15-49 The number of divorce cases registered in the Chennai family court has increased to 3,874 in 2007 from 3,374 cases in 2006.
There was the time when divorce was considered a stigma in the society and only the upper class in the society had the guts and gumption to break away from the marriages. There was also a time when dowry harassment and in-laws wars were cited as reasons for separation. But the scene today is completely different. More than the upper class the Middle and lower middle families taking to family courts. Multiple incomes, over ambitious and career oriented youth, nuclear families and fast paced lifestyle among many other personality traits and ego wars seem to threaten the institution of marriage in India.
Today's women are educated and hold jobs that ensure their economic independence. They are confident enough to walk out of a bad marriage unlike the previous generation.
One has to really appreciate Rose for not going in to details of the marital discord but to probe in to Meera and her ex hubby on their feelings before and after.
There is no need of a psychologist to understand why this pair split. Meera was earning and in most of their union she was the only breadwinner. A 2006 study in Social Forces, a research journal, found that women—even those with a "feminist" outlook—are happier when their husband is the primary breadwinner. Meera also mentioned in the discussion she would look for a shoulder to lean, which means she was deprived of an emotional and financial support she longed for in Marriage.
Whether she was a victim of physical abuse as claimed by her or as her hubby claimed was she in habit of self-destruction, is immaterial now. She looks poised, confident and in complete control of her,and even Narcissist to an extent now, after the split. Seems the split is doing good to her. She was not intimidated nor concerned nor conscious of the presence of a psychologist in their discussion, unlike her ex hubby Vishal. Vishal looked as if or was pretending well that he is yet to overcome and as if he was the affected party. All that might suit a maintenance case,
Our society normally blames the man for any marital discord in public but when in courts it is the character assassination of the female, which is used predominantly.
"Marriage resembles a pair of shears, so joined that they cannot be separated. Often moving in opposite directions, yet always punishing by cutting anyone who comes between them."
Dr. Shalini as usual was very impressive with her apt analysis of both the cases and best replies for questions posed to her. Calling both Meera and Vishal was not expected and by this Rose sprang a surprise. However poor Audio took the toll of the latter part of the show.
7/10 for the week.
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